"HOW HUSBANDS KNOW THAT THE WIFE IS HAVING AN AFFIAR"
Copyright © 2008 by J.A.Mcbean. Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
H ow does a husband know that his wife is having an affair? What mistakes did she make that give him the indication of what was happening? In addition, what is the reasons that driver her into that behavior? Many women died yearly, some of them their bodies have not been found. Before we can answer all these questions, we must first answer the question of what broken up marriage?
Something bad happen before the affair started. In addition, to fix the affair, we must first go back to the original causes. One of the first problem are money problem, power struggle, interferences of families and friends, hear says, molestation from childhood which made the person frigid, gullibility, baggage’s brought over from previous relationship, bad depts. brought over into the relationship, and bad police record which render the person incapable of getting a job. All these and much more. These problems could have fix even before the couple move in together, had they sit down and talk about these things before, and have a game plan how to deal with it. All these things lay the groundwork for a relationship to go bad and an affair to start.
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Women by nature are very over confidence and secure, when they are dealing with men. They think the man cannot know because he is not that smart. Therefore, by these perceptions they leave a long trail of evidence unknowing to them, but can be easily picked up even by a husband who is in denial. Men know what their wives are up to, but in most case feeling too defeated to say any thing about it. It is best to play like they naive. The first time a man really knows for sure what the wife is up to is by the wife best friends. Wife best friend always tell on them. The wife best friend is always the one to let the husband know that hog is digging up his something. The men that she been seeing sometime make the husband suspected by their actions
HOW MEN KNOW WHAT THE WIFE IS DOING.
Sometime the condom that was flushed in the toilet floated up back after a while, the husband saw it but say nothing, fearing if he say any thing the woman will get wise up, and since he hope to catch them in the act so he can kill them both, it is best to behave naive. A new brand of cigarettes turns up in the homes, and the butt left in the tray. When the woman has a sore vagina, or bruises between the legs.
The company that a woman keeps sometime gives the man the indication of what going on. When the woman swears by a kind of sex that she is not getting at home, also give the husband an indication.
THE MAN SEXUAL NEED IS NOT TAKING CARE OF.
One woman is more that enough for ten men. In some cases, one prostitute is taking care of a whole street of men with ease. Two are three times per week is quite enough for most working couple, when a husband fall below that he can be sure something is going on. When the wife is never in the mood, rationing the husband, and fake sickness, but at the same time well enough to go to work, but only sick the night she is home. Where does she get her need meet?
There are certain thing that people never denies themselves of especially when it is available and legal. People do not deny themselves of food, sleep, and sex, when it is available and legal. If they are not getting it at home they are getting it some place, but people never denies themselves of these. Love, hate, revenge, sex, and covetousness are some of the strongest emotions. People will be ready to show how righteous they are but all indulges in these things. A man does not have a wife home who is available and deliberately denies him to her. People do not have food in the refrigerator and remain hungry. If the person is not doing it at home, than where is he or she doing it?
QUARELSOME LITTE BEFORE BEDTIMES.
Quarrelsome when bed times drawing near is another signs that sometimes is not right.
THE MEN WHO ROMANCE MARRIED WOMEN.
The men who romance married women are a special breed of men who do not want responsibility. Immediately as the husband leave such a men always leave the women also, because they do not want responsibility. These know how to turn a woman inside out. They know what women want and willing to invest the time. They are not busy like a husband with responsibility.
They will remember her birthday, valentine’s day, and brought her flowers at the job, something that a working husband might not have the time to do, are the burden of responsibilities cause the husband to forget.
THE PLAN OF GOD CONCERNIGN MARRIAGES:
God gave us all two kidneys, one head, one heart two feet two hands. One heart is capable of doing the work; two kidneys do a better job. If one eye is, nock out the other one can take over. You do not need any more that one tongue, because it never fell out or failed to work. God gave Adam one wife, and gave Eve one husband. Because God know that it could work, the one man was capable, and the one woman was capable of taking care of each other need. When this is not happening, the door way is open for a second relationship to be started.
Mat 19:4 And he answered and said, Have ye not read, that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, Mat 19:5 and said, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh? Mat 19:6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
VERSES OF SPECIAL INTREST:
1Co 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 1Co 7:2 But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 1Co 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1Co 7:4 The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife. 1Co 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be by consent for a season, that ye may give yourselves unto prayer, and may be together again, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.
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1Co 7:1 Now, as to the things in your letter to me: It is good for a man to have nothing to do with a woman. 1Co 7:2 But because of the desires of the flesh, let every man have his wife, and every woman her husband. 1Co 7:3 Let the husband give to the wife what is right; and let the wife do the same to the husband. 1Co 7:4 The wife has not power over her body, but the husband; and in the same way the husband has not power over his body, but the wife. 1Co 7:5 Do not keep back from one another what is right, but only for a short time, and by agreement, so that you may give yourselves to prayer, and come together again; so that Satan may not get the better of you through your loss of self-control.
1Pe 3:1 In like manner, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, even if any obey not the word, they may without the word be gained by the behavior of their wives; 1Pe 3:2 beholding your chaste behavior coupled with fear. 1Pe 3:3 Whose adorning let it not be the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel; 1Pe 3:4 but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 1Pe 3:5 For after this manner aforetime the holy women also, who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands: 1Pe 3:6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose children ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in fear by any terror.
GOD’S COMMAND TO HUSBANDS.
1Pe 3:7 Ye husbands, in like manner, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of life; to the end that your prayers be not hindered. 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all likeminded, compassionate, loving as brethren, tenderhearted, humbleminded: 1Pe 3:9 not rendering evil for evil, or reviling for reviling; but contrariwise blessing; for hereunto were ye called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US:
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF BECOMING A CHRISTIAN:
How does a person become a Christian, and are sure that he/she is save? First the person must know that he/she is a sinner and need deliverance from the lord.
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD:
Hebrews 11:6 NKJV But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM:
Isaiah 55:7 (KJV)Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM:
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN KEEP HIM:
Ephes. 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD:
1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM:
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY:
Isaiah 1:18 (KJV) Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
BOW YOUR HEAD AND PRAY THIS PRAYER:
Lord I am a sinner and need your salvation. Forgive all my sins. I accept your son Jesus as my savior today.
We can sing with the song writer" I rise walk in heaven’s own light above the world and sin with heart made pure and garments white, and Christ en-throned with in. The cleansing stream I see I see I plunge, and O It cleans-eth me. O praise the Lord, it cleans-eth me, it cleans-eth me yes, cleans-eth me."
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY:
Drop all preconceived ideas of Christianity because these conflict with the reality of Christianity. The lord will live the life through you day by day. You do not drop things from your life on your own. The spirit of God will walk you out of sins in his own time.
FIRST HUMBLING YOU:
Ephes. 2:8-9 (KJV)For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon a sin or two. The sin always getting the better of you. This will push you to always accept God’s grace, and to see your own frailness.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD:
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV) As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING:
When I was newly save, the believers always, ask me if I know the will of God for my life! I never really know what they were talking about. Every person that was saved had a mission and a gift. However, because you are just a babe in Christ you do not know any of these. As you go on with the lord his will for you will unfolds day bay day. Do not run off and make any big commitment. Your mate has to be tailor made for you by God. You are now a citizen of heaven. Heaven does not rule by democracy. You cannot serve God with democratic mind set.
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF:
Hebrews 12:1 (Living Bible) Since we have such a huge crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, AND FIND A GOOD CHURCH:
One of the best Bibles out there is the New King James Version. Dake’s annotated Bible is very good. Next, you need a living bible to make some thing simple.
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN:
Col. 2:8 (KJV)Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians:
1. Through philosophy (Col. 2:8)
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY:
Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body.
According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.
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