HOW TO TAKE A TRASH MAN AND TURN HIM AROUND.
By Dr.James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2009 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
T he good thing about the human race is that we are able to change, the vilest sinner can became a saint. Sinfulness and wickedness is base on lack of knowledge. You can take a trash person and set their life on course. That is why we have doctors to heal the sick, and teachers to educate the foolish. The good thing about human love is that it does not base on merit. A king can love a commoner. A good clean man can end up falling in love with a prostitute. A good clean upper-class woman can end up falling for a no body. All it takes to make a man live is one person on the outside loving and believing in him. As every prisoner who been arrested innocently, what gives them the courage to go on. For some is their mother who believe in their innocence, for some is their wives, for some is their children, and some is faith in God.
Job 14:7 (KJV) For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease. Job 14:8 (KJV) Though the root thereof wax old in the earth, and the stock thereof die in the ground; Job 14:14-15 (KJV) If a man die, shall he live again? all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come. [15] Thou shalt call, and I will answer thee: thou wilt have a desire to the work of thine hands.
INVIROMENTAL CONDITIONING.
Each person was brought up in different environment, and has different concepts of things. If such a person is going to live with you and have successful union, there will have to be the establishment of a mutual understanding. You will have to invest the time to look into each other background and interacted with them accordingly. If you are going to move, in with a Jamaican Rasta man or dread. You must be aware that you cannot carry any pig meat into that home. If you are going to move in with a Jew, a Muslim or a Rasta you must understand this and respect it.
SET NO TIME AND PUT NO PRESURE ON PEOPLE TO MAKE CHANGE.
Never look for perfection in people because you are going to be disappointed and end up broken hearted, and afraid to love again.
Setting time and putting pressures upon people to make changes to their own lives. To modified their own nasty habits, will only causing them to fake the change. Pretending like they change, while continuing their bad activates in secrets. One thing you do not want, a mate that hide their old cuts, you smell it but cannot implements any cure. You will need to give people enough time for the old cut to heal.
JUST LOOK FOR ONE OR TWO GOOD QUALITY IN PEOPLE THAT MEET YOUR MOST IMPORTANT NEEDS.
If you are going to move in with an alcoholic, you must understand that this person is an alcoholic before moving in with him or her. For example, the man can deliver a lot of money or he is good in bed, maybe the person is a good conversationalist and that is important to you.
You will need to keep your mind on the benefits, the fact that that the man is good in bed, and is financially able, that is two good things right there. He is not violent, neither will he abuse or molest your children, that is three good things right there. He carries his share of the family financial burden, that is another good thing right there. Now! Take your mind of his alcoholic problem. Allow time and God to change that. A man has a girl friend that is always available, a good sex, but she has a problem, she keep taking illegal drugs. Stop bothering her about her drug problem, give her time to change that, believe in her that she can change, let her know that she has your support.
NEVER FOUGHT A BATTLE WITH YOUR MATE MORE THAN ONCE.
It is not good wisdom to fight the same battle day after day with your mate, say what bothering you and get it over with. Let people bad habits run its course. Sometime it is just best to let the fire burn itself out. Let the dead dog drown himself, without helping him.
A MAN IS NOT A DILDO.
You cannot just use him and tuck him under a pillow until next month. You have to have compromises in the arias of sex. You must think about his needs and copulate with him often. Or else he will never leave that mash up mouth prostitutes up the road alone. Women call men dogs, because dogs go where their need are taken care of. Feed them or they will eat dung in the street and came home with a dirty mouth.
1 Cor. 7:1-5 (Living Bible) Now about those questions you asked in your last letter: my answer is that if you do not marry, it is good. [2] But usually it is best to be married, each man having his own wife, and each woman having her own husband, because otherwise you might fall back into sin. [3] The man should give his wife all that is her right as a married woman, and the wife should do the same for her husband: [4] for a girl who marries no longer has full right to her own body, for her husband then has his rights to it, too; and in the same way the husband no longer has full right to his own body, for it belongs also to his wife. [5] So do not refuse these rights to each other. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from the rights of marriage for a limited time, so that they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterwards, they should come together again so that Satan will not be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.
YOU CANNOT LEAVE BIBICAL PRINCIPLES BEHIND AND HAVE SUCCESS.
1 Peter 3:1 (Living Bible) Wives, fit in with your husbands' plans; for then if they refuse to listen when you talk to them about the Lord, they will be won by your respectful, pure behavior. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words.
1 Peter 3:3 (Living Bible) Don't be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on jewelry, or beautiful clothes, or hair arrangement.
1 Peter 3:4 (Living Bible) Be beautiful inside, in your hearts, with the lasting charm of a gentle and quiet spirit that is so precious to God.
1 Peter 3:5 (Living Bible) That kind of deep beauty was seen in the saintly women of old, who trusted God and fitted in with their husbands' plans.
1 Peter 3:6-7 (Living Bible) Sarah, for instance, obeyed her husband Abraham, honoring him as head of the house. And if you do the same, you will be following in her steps like good daughters and doing what is right; then you will not need to fear [offending your husbands].
THE SAME MESSIAGE GOES FOR THE HUSBAND.
[7] You husbands must be careful of your wives, being thoughtful of their needs and honoring them as the weaker sex. Remember that you and your wife are partners in receiving God's blessings, and if you do not treat her, as you should, your prayers will not get ready answers.
The Message Bible. 1Pe 3:1 The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated 1Pe 3:2 by your life of holy beauty. 1Pe 3:3 What matters is not your outer appearance--the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes-- 1Pe 3:4 but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in. 1Pe 3:5 The holy women of old were beautiful before God that way, and were good, loyal wives to their husbands. 1Pe 3:6 Sarah, for instance, taking care of Abraham, would address him as "my dear husband." You will be true daughters of Sarah if you do the same, unanxious and unintimidated.
THE SAME MESSIAE GOES FOR THE HUSBAND.
1Pe 3:7 The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God's grace, you're equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don't run aground.
Job 11:18 (KJV) And thou shalt be secure, because there is hope; yea, thou shalt dig about thee, and thou shalt take thy rest in safety.
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
The Bearer's Of The "Mind Sword"
