How To Save The marriage from The Trash pile
Copyright © 2008 by Dr.J.AMcBean Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
How To Save The marriage from The Trash pile
M y wife and I got married young. I remember well, because it was to be my twenty fifth-birth day that same months. It was unheard of in my community for two young people to tie the knot that early in life. We were being look down upon as a show off. Therefore, we could not get any kind of council from any ones around us. Not even in the church. In fact, the church was the worst one. My wife’s pastor refuses to bless our engagement ring. When my wife got pregnant, the church people count the day right down to the baby birth, to see if she was pregnant before marriage. The baby was born exactly nine months to the date from the night we got married. The church people came and apologized, for spreading rumors. If we made it pass thirty years, anybody can do it. The secret is what I want to share.
HORMONAL CHANGES
Women are fired up by hormonal changes, which takes place in their bodies. You the man must learn the cycles of these changes, and know how to act according to these changes. Men with short fuses should consider getting “Conflict management training,” before getting married.
THE HONEYMOON, IS THE ONLY HONEYMOON YOU WILL GET
After the honeymoon time is over, it is now hard work keeping you two together. Bills to pay, family, and friends to come over and interfere. Children are now on the way.
FIXING YOURSELF
Each couple must spend time trying to fix themselves, and not the other person. Be the change you want to see in the other, and the relationship will change. Watch your tone of voice. Watch your body language. Be careful of them “go to hell looks” watch your spying. Above all, do not listen to hear says.
GET TRAINING IN CONFLICT COMMUNICATION
When communicating in conflicts, you must remember that you are not talking to an enemy. You are talking to a husband or wife. What you are having are some mis understanding. That is all it is a “Misunderstanding” There is no need for name-calling, or even tone of voice. There is no need for slapping each other around. Leave room for reconciliation to chip in when the misunderstanding clear up. There is no need for weaponed, are cursing.
LEAVE WHEN YOU FEEL AFRAID
If you feel afraid that your wife is going to cause you to do something bad. Leave the home. If she asks you to leave, you must leave, and give the problem time to clear up.
BEATING A CONTROLLING SPIRIT
A controlling spirit develops from fear. Lack of confidence and insecurity. You the victim must let your partners know, that there is not needed for the controlling mentality. “I choose you” “Only you can change that” “I come to you of my won free will” “You need to give me breath space”
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
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