"HOW TO GET THE MAN AND PREVENT HIM FROM LEAVING"
Copyright © 1998 by J.A.Mcbean. Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
I n this world the survival of the fittest does not depend on luck but on calculated actions. For a woman to keep a man from dumping her off, she must have certain ingredient in her life. Such as, availability, sensibility, sex abilities, and submissiveness to delegated authority. We will look into these four qualities later and show how these tied in with some other spiritual qualities mention in the Holy Scriptures. The first thing a woman need to do before going man hunting is to get healing of emotional hurts if she was so afflicted in the past. Then, she must seek a man that she is willing to submit to, so there will not be any power struggle arises between them. Chose somebody that has same ambitions and purpose like her. Somebody that she and he have more in common. If she is a horny woman, she will need to find a horny man. If she is an entertainer and has to shake her bust in men’s faces, she will need to choose a man that understand the trade that she is in, and do not mind that.
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? 2 Cor. 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
If my reader is a born again Christians. You will need to know this. When the lord save a person, he eventually reveals to that person how he is going to communicate his will to that person, and you need to keep seeking God, and leave things like marriage on hold until you learn how God is going to communicate to you personal. He is going to give you a code, or a token, by which you can know for sure, so you do not make mistake when choosing. The Holy Spirit told one of my patients at an early age of ten, never to fall in love and never to marriage, she fall in love and get married. The same night her husband brought her home, he gave her HIV.
GETTING THE MAN.
If a woman cannot give good signals she will have problem pulling in a man. Good signals is just as important as using the correct bait when fishing. In one of our lake here in Florida. People went their daily trying to catch fish, and catch none, when the lake was dried up; there was more that twenty hundred weights of dead fish at the bottom.
The right time, the right baits and the right tackle is important in fishing. If you have the right bait and go when the fish feeding time is over, you will catch nothing even though the place is full of fish and you have the right bait.
The same thing can be said about men, you cannot wait until the man has his woman need taking care of then you try to get him. When I was in Collage, I was knocking at a girl door for three years, she just laughs at me. The day when I was getting married to my wife, this girl was roiling on the floor bawling saying her heart is broken.
We have a article on this web site, that deal directly with giving signals, so we will not put it here now. A woman’s cuteness does not appeal to every man the same way. You might have heard the phrase” Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” A pretty woman could appear ugly to some men. You cannot act as if you do not want man and expect to get man; in on of our church the pastors call the women who want to get married to the altar. They just done praying for and husband, but get up acting like a man is the last thing on their mind.
NEVER CHOSE A MATE OUT OF YOUR RANK.
If you are call to be a pastor, never married to somebody that do not have the same gift and calling as your. One genuine believer can be unequally yoke with another genuine believer. Unequally yoke is not only with unbelievers. When a missionary is married of to a pastor the marriage never, work out. The missionary always wants to get up and go while a pastor is a stationary person, who never wants to move. Never married out of your calling and gift. Falling in love kind of marriage might not work for born again people.
1 Cor. 12:28 And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues.
1 Cor. 12:29 Are all apostles? are all prophets? are all teachers? are all workers of miracles?
1 Cor. 12:30 Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak with tongues? do all interpret?
THE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SPIRITS AND THEIR INFLUENCE UPON HUMAN MIND.
Not all so-call Christians assembled are actually Christians. Even hate group people are now taking cover under Christian’s organizations so as to get some legal covering. There is one group of evil spirits at are call”familiar spirits”. These are friendly demons, and are after you married to this nice person and brought them home before you begin to see the what was hidden.
Leviticus 19:31 Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I am the Lord your God.
REAL SPIRITUAL MEN WILL NOT CHOSE A WOMAN THAT IS OPERATING IN SIGHT.
Operating in sight mean, she bases her conclusions solely on the physical appearances of things. Or on the physical appearances of people. The bible calls this operating in the flesh. This is what prejudice people do. These kinds of people cannot win spiritual battle, because spiritual battles do not win with carnal weaponry. Man say kill him, God say give him mercy. Man say starve him out God say feed him.
GOD WINS AN ENTIRE WAR WITH BREAD AND WATER.
2 Kings 6:20-23 (KJV) And it came to pass, when they were come into Samaria, that Elisha said, Lord, open the eyes of these men, that they may see. And the Lord opened their eyes, and they saw; and, behold, they were in the midst of Samaria. [21] And the king of Israel said unto Elisha, when he saw them, My father, shall I smite them? shall I smite them? [22] And he answered, Thou shalt not smite them: wouldest thou smite those whom thou hast taken captive with thy sword and with thy bow? set bread and water before them, that they may eat and drink, and go to their master. [23] And he prepared great provision for them: and when they had eaten and drunk, he sent them away, and they went to their master. So the bands of Syria came no more into the land of Israel.
Lot wife were not at the place to see the danger coming. Moses wife could not see the time, and know the calling that was upon her husband’s life.
AVAILABILITY.
Women spend a lot of money each year to improve how cute they look; however, cuteness will never be able to take the place of availability. This is where the sweet hearts wins and the married women lose.
Not all the looks in the world, and sex ability, good conducts, ambitions and so on can take the place of availability. If the woman has the best vagina in the world and the best looks but are not available she still loose the man. A woman can be living right there alongside the man and are still unavailable. If she works two jobs, she must still leave place and time to be with her husbands.
SENSEABILITY:
I saw an alligator with his mouth open, and several birds inside its mouth feeding on the fragments that left over from his last meal. If the gator shut its mouth, all the birds will become a meal. But, then, how would he get a free hygiene care next time? Even in the animal kingdom it is you help me, me help you kind of things. Women always ask. What is in it for me? What do I have to get? Men think the same way. In this world, there is no such thing as love me for nothing. Women have need for men because men have need for women. Men are getting smart now, if the woman act as if she had no need for a man, then men start acting like they got no need for such woman either.
Good men do not drop from the sky; you have to sometime fish them out and polished them up. Men that drop in do not waste time; they will not wait ten years for you to make your mind up. Men love sensible women, women who he can trust with his secrets. You find a lot of foolish women in church, being in church does not necessary made one wise.
If you are trusting God to find you an husband, you will have to align yourself with how God see things. Else, when the blessing came from him you will reject it. God is not looking on the outside performance and looks.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
SEX ABILITY:
In the magazine “O” first edition. It say, “Twenty million women living in the United States do not want sex,” But many of them In my estimation want marriage, because marriage look good.
I heard my wife laughing to the point of crying. I ask her what the joke! She say she was just talking to sister X, she say that since she got converted to Christianity and got married she never try any other sexual positions but the missionary style”
The missionary positions are when the woman lied down flat on her back with her legs partially open. Doggie style and foot over shoulder is sin, she thinks. Christianity can sometime turn fools into a bigger fools. If a woman has problem with sex it is best to choose an old man. However, I have seen some of them go married to young stud and know that they are burn out.
IT IS A PART OF OUR HUMAN PRIVVILIAGES.
Even the angels of God envy us. Because we had the abilities to love and propagated our kind, when they do not.
1 Cor. 7:2-5 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. [3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. [4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. [5] Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
THE DELIGATED AUTHORITY OF MAN.
Women who do not respect men, men do not respect them either. One of my female co-worker class her husband as dog, I stop talking to her. In-fact she had no man friend. A man is the head, and if a woman does not agree with this she better get rich and find a poor man, and employed him as a husband. You do not marry him unless he is willing to give up the headship thing.
1 Cor. 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Ephes. 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
BIBICAL PRINCIPLES YOU NEED TO HAVE, AND NEED TO LOOK FOR IN MEN.
SOBER-MINDEDNESS.
Titus 2:6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. Titus 2:7-8 In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, [8] Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.
It is not an accident that you will see that it all the different groups of people must be sober. “Sober minded,” Mean one that understands the seriousness of life. Sober, gravity, sincerity, and sound in speech. It is not an accident that these were mention.
A BISHOP MUST BE SOBER-MINDED..
1 Tim. 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
THE BISHOP WIFE MUST BE SOBER-MINDED ALSO.
1 Tim. 3:11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
Titus 1:8 But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;
THE AGE MEN MUST ALSO BE SOBER-MINDED.
Titus 2:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
THE AGE WOMEN MUST ALSO BE SOBER-MINDED.
Titus 2:3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
THE YOUNGER WOMEN MUST ALSO BE SOBER-MINDED.
Titus 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
The younger women must also be discrete, chaste, good housekeepers, obedient to their own husband, not to her brothers, nor sisters, but to her own husbands.
You look for in people, and not on height, statue, are the way they fix their faces these qualities.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
1 Samuel 2:3 Talk no more so exceeding proudly; let not arrogancy come out of your mouth: for the Lord is a God of knowledge, and by him actions are weighed.
BAD CREDIT.
Before you move in with a man, you will need to know something about his credit history. Because if he do not pay that bills you will have to pay it. All my wife credit cards bills now turn up on my credit. I clean up mine but still in the hole.
CRIMINAL HISTORY.
Two girls always hang out at my home with my daughters. I know something was wrong. their stepfather was molesting them. You will need to know if this man has a criminal history.
MEDICAL RECORD.
A girl friend of mine married to this man, who ends up having no sex drive. in the war, he was exposing to certain chemical, which leave him sterile. When the doctor check the man medical history, the man know of his conditions, years ago yet came to the church and pick out the strongest woman in their and married to her while knowing he is impotent. Watch out for a sleeper disease. Some people has certain diseases that never goes away, we call "this sleeper"
DOES HE HAVE A TRADE?
Does this man have a trade? So how is he going to support his family in today world?
LOOK FOR AN ELEMENT OF IDIOCY.
You will not want a man who is an ideate. one who is addicted to the uses of substances, addicted to gamboling, always getting in and out of trouble. In trouble with police. Racist or militant oriented. If you are a black women beware of black men who baited them selves up to look militant. If you are white woman, beware of racist husband. These are going nowhere but down. You goes down with them.
AMBITIONS.
You the woman must have a thing call ambitions, as well as the man. Men rate women by their sex ability and by their ambitions. You are thirty years old and still doing not have some kind of educations. What were you doing all these years? You do not want to catch an old poison fish.
Let us face the fact, no matter how much education we had on a subject we can go out there and made the worst mistakes of our life that causes us dearly. Only Jesus Christ can help us with our decision-making.
Proverbs 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Begin, continue, and end every work, purpose, and plan with God. Self-sufficiency and self-confidence have been the ruin of mankind ever since the fall. Man's sin has been to live independently of God. True religion consists of full acknowledgement of God in all human affairs (Proverbs 3:5).
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US:
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF BECOMING A CHRISTIAN:
How does a person become a Christian, and are sure that he/she is save? First the person must know that he/she is a sinner and need deliverance from the lord.
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD:
Hebrews 11:6 NKJV But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM:
Isaiah 55:7 (KJV)Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM:
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN KEEP HIM:
Ephes. 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD:
1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM:
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY:
Isaiah 1:18 (KJV) Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
BOW YOUR HEAD AND PRAY THIS PRAYER:
Lord I am a sinner and need your salvation. Forgive all my sins. I accept your son Jesus as my savior today.
We can sing with the song writer" I rise walk in heaven’s own light above the world and sin with heart made pure and garments white, and Christ en-throned with in. The cleansing stream I see I see I plunge, and O It cleans-eth me. O praise the Lord, it cleans-eth me, it cleans-eth me yes, cleans-eth me."
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY:
Drop all preconceived ideas of Christianity because these conflict with the reality of Christianity. The lord will live the life through you day by day. You do not drop things from your life on your own. The spirit of God will walk you out of sins in his own time.
FIRST HUMBLING YOU:
Ephes. 2:8-9 (KJV)For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon a sin or two. The sin always getting the better of you. This will push you to always accept God’s grace, and to see your own frailness.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD:
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV) As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING:
When I was newly save, the believers always, ask me if I know the will of God for my life! I never really know what they were talking about. Every person that was saved had a mission and a gift. However, because you are just a babe in Christ you do not know any of these. As you go on with the lord his will for you will unfolds day bay day. Do not run off and make any big commitment. Your mate has to be tailor made for you by God. You are now a citizen of heaven. Heaven does not rule by democracy. You cannot serve God with democratic mind set.
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF:
Hebrews 12:1 (Living Bible) Since we have such a huge crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, AND FIND A GOOD CHURCH:
One of the best Bibles out there is the New King James Version. Dake’s annotated Bible is very good. Next, you need a living bible to make some thing simple.
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN:
Col. 2:8 (KJV)Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians:
1. Through philosophy (Col. 2:8)
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY:
Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body.
According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.
Come back for update soon.
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