HOW TO GET THE MAN AND PREVENT HIM FROM LEAVING
By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
I n this world the survival of the fittest does not depend on luck but on calculated actions. For a woman to keep a man from dumping her off, she must have certain ingredient in her life. Such as, availability, sensibility, sex abilities, and submissiveness to delegated authority. We will look into these four qualities later and show how these tied in with some other spiritual qualities mention in the Holy Scriptures. The first thing a woman need to do before going man hunting is to get healing of emotional hurts if she was so afflicted in the past. Then, she must seek a man that she is willing to submit to, so there will not be any power struggle arises between them. Chose somebody that has same ambitions and purpose like her. Somebody that she and he have more in common. If she is a horny woman, she will need to find a horny man. If she is an entertainer and has to shake her bust in men's faces, she will need to choose a man that understand the trade that she is in, and do not mind that.
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? 2 Cor. 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
If my reader is a born again Christians. You will need to know this. When the lord save a person, he eventually reveals to that person how he is going to communicate his will to that person, and you need to keep seeking God, and leave things like marriage on hold until you learn how God is going to communicate to you personal. He is going to give you a code, or a token, by which you can know for sure, so you do not make mistake when choosing. The Holy Spirit told one of my patients at an early age of ten, never to fall in love and never to marriage, she fall in love and get married. The same night her husband brought her home, he gave her HIV.
GETTING THE MAN.
If a woman cannot give good signals she will have problem pulling in a man. Good signals is just as important as using the correct bait when fishing. In one of our lake here in Florida. People went their daily trying to catch fish, and catch none, when the lake was dried up; there was more that twenty hundred weights of dead fish at the bottom.
The right time, the right baits and the right tackle is important in fishing. If you have the right bait and go when the fish feeding time is over, you will catch nothing even though the place is full of fish and you have the right bait.
The same thing can be said about men, you cannot wait until the man has his woman need taking care of then you try to get him. When I was in Collage, I was knocking at a girl door for three years, she just laughs at me. The day when I was getting married to my wife, this girl was roiling on the floor bawling saying her heart is broken.
We have a article on this web site, that deal directly with giving signals, so we will not put it here now. A woman's cuteness does not appeal to every man the same way. You might have heard the phrase "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" A pretty woman could appear ugly to some men. You cannot act as if you do not want man and expect to get man; in on of our church the pastors call the women who want to get married to the altar. They just done praying for and husband, but get up acting like a man is the last thing on their mind.
NEVER CHOSE A MATE OUT OF YOUR RANK.
If you are call to be a pastor, never married to somebody that do not have the same gift and calling as your. One genuine believer can be unequally yoke with another genuine believer. Unequally yoke is not only with unbelievers. When a missionary is married of to a pastor the marriage never, work out. The missionary always wants to get up and go while a pastor is a stationary person, who never wants to move. Never married out of your calling and gift. Falling in love kind of marriage might not work for born again people.
1 Cor. 12:28 And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues.
1 Cor. 12:29 Are all apostles? are all prophets? are all teachers? are all workers of miracles?
1 Cor. 12:30 Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak with tongues? do all interpret?
THE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SPIRITS AND THEIR INFLUENCE UPON HUMAN MIND.
Not all so-call Christians assembled are actually Christians. Even hate group people are now taking cover under Christian's organizations so as to get some legal covering. There is one group of evil spirits at are call "familiar spirits." These are friendly demons, and are after you married to this nice person and brought them home before you begin to see the what was hidden.
Leviticus 19:31 Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I am the Lord your God.
REAL SPIRITUAL MEN WILL NOT CHOSE A WOMAN THAT IS OPERATING IN SIGHT.
Operating in sight mean, she bases her conclusions solely on the physical appearances of things. Or on the physical appearances of people. The bible calls this operating in the flesh. This is what prejudice people do. These kinds of people cannot win spiritual battle, because spiritual battles do not win with carnal weaponry. Man say kill him, God say give him mercy. Man say starve him out God say feed him.
GOD WINS AN ENTIRE WAR WITH BREAD AND WATER.
2 Kings 6:20-23 (KJV) And it came to pass, when they were come into Samaria, that Elisha said, Lord, open the eyes of these men, that they may see. And the Lord opened their eyes, and they saw; and, behold, they were in the midst of Samaria. [21] And the king of Israel said unto Elisha, when he saw them, My father, shall I smite them? shall I smite them? [22] And he answered, Thou shalt not smite them: wouldest thou smite those whom thou hast taken captive with thy sword and with thy bow? set bread and water before them, that they may eat and drink, and go to their master. [23] And he prepared great provision for them: and when they had eaten and drunk, he sent them away, and they went to their master. So the bands of Syria came no more into the land of Israel.
Lot wife were not at the place to see the danger coming. Moses wife could not see the time, and know the calling that was upon her husband's life.
AVAILABILITY.
Women spend a lot of money each year to improve how cute they look; however, cuteness will never be able to take the place of availability. This is where the sweet hearts wins and the married women lose.
Not all the looks in the world, and sex ability, good conducts, ambitions and so on can take the place of availability. If the woman has the best vagina in the world and the best looks but are not available she still loose the man. A woman can be living right there alongside the man and are still unavailable. If she works two jobs, she must still leave place and time to be with her husbands.
SENSEABILITY
I saw an alligator with his mouth open, and several birds inside its mouth feeding on the fragments that left over from his last meal. If the gator shut its mouth, all the birds will become a meal. But, then, how would he get a free hygiene care next time? Even in the animal kingdom it is you help me, me help you kind of things. Women always ask. What is in it for me? What do I have to get? Men think the same way. In this world, there is no such thing as love me for nothing. Women have need for men because men have need for women. Men are getting smart now, if the woman act as if she had no need for a man, then men start acting like they got no need for such woman either.
Good men do not drop from the sky; you have to sometime fish them out and polished them up. Men that drop in do not waste time; they will not wait ten years for you to make your mind up. Men love sensible women, women who he can trust with his secrets. You find a lot of foolish women in church, being in church does not necessary made one wise.
If you are trusting God to find you an husband, you will have to align yourself with how God see things. Else, when the blessing came from him you will reject it. God is not looking on the outside performance and looks.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
SEX ABILITY
In the magazine "O" first edition. It say, "Twenty million women living in the United States do not want sex," But many of them In my estimation want marriage, because marriage look good.
I heard my wife laughing to the point of crying. I ask her what the joke! She say she was just talking to sister X, she say that since she got converted to Christianity and got married she never try any other sexual positions but the missionary style"
The missionary positions are when the woman lied down flat on her back with her legs partially open. Doggie style and foot over shoulder is sin, she thinks. Christianity can sometime turn fools into a bigger fools. If a woman has problem with sex it is best to choose an old man. However, I have seen some of them go married to young stud and know that they are burn out.
IT IS A PART OF OUR HUMAN PRIVVILIAGES.
Even the angels of God envy us. Because we had the abilities to love and propagated our kind, when they do not.
1 Cor. 7:2-5 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. [3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. [4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. [5] Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
THE DELIGATED AUTHORITY OF MAN.
Women who do not respect men, men do not respect them either. One of my female co-worker class her husband as dog, I stop talking to her. In-fact she had no man friend. A man is the head, and if a woman does not agree with this she better get rich and find a poor man, and employed him as a husband. You do not marry him unless he is willing to give up the headship thing.
1 Cor. 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Ephes. 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
BIBICAL PRINCIPLES YOU NEED TO HAVE, AND NEED TO LOOK FOR IN MEN.
SOBER-MINDEDNESS.
Titus 2:6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. Titus 2:7-8 In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, [8] Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.
It is not an accident that you will see that it all the different groups of people must be sober. "Sober minded," Mean one that understands the seriousness of life. Sober, gravity, sincerity, and sound in speech. It is not an accident that these were mention.
A BISHOP MUST BE SOBER-MINDED
1 Tim. 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
THE BISHOP WIFE MUST BE SOBER-MINDED ALSO.
1 Tim. 3:11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
Titus 1:8 But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;
THE AGE MEN MUST ALSO BE SOBER-MINDED.
Titus 2:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
THE AGE WOMEN MUST ALSO BE SOBER-MINDED.
Titus 2:3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
THE YOUNGER WOMEN MUST ALSO BE SOBER-MINDED.
Titus 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
The younger women must also be discrete, chaste, good housekeepers, obedient to their own husband, not to her brothers, nor sisters, but to her own husbands.
You look for in people, and not on height, statue, are the way they fix their faces these qualities.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
1 Samuel 2:3 Talk no more so exceeding proudly; let not arrogancy come out of your mouth: for the Lord is a God of knowledge, and by him actions are weighed.
BAD CREDIT.
Before you move in with a man, you will need to know something about his credit history. Because if he do not pay that bills you will have to pay it. All my wife credit cards bills now turn up on my credit. I clean up mine but still in the hole.
CRIMINAL HISTORY.
Two girls always hang out at my home with my daughters. I know something was wrong. their stepfather was molesting them. You will need to know if this man has a criminal history.
MEDICAL RECORD.
A girl friend of mine married to this man, who ends up having no sex drive. in the war, he was exposing to certain chemical, which leave him sterile. When the doctor check the man medical history, the man know of his conditions, years ago yet came to the church and pick out the strongest woman in their and married to her while knowing he is impotent. Watch out for a sleeper disease. Some people has certain diseases that never goes away, we call "this sleeper"
DOES HE HAVE A TRADE?
Does this man have a trade? So how is he going to support his family in today world?
LOOK FOR AN ELEMENT OF IDIOCY.
You will not want a man who is an ideate. one who is addicted to the uses of substances, addicted to gamboling, always getting in and out of trouble. In trouble with police. Racist or militant oriented. If you are a black women beware of black men who baited them selves up to look militant. If you are white woman, beware of racist husband. These are going nowhere but down. You goes down with them.
AMBITIONS.
You the woman must have a thing call ambitions, as well as the man. Men rate women by their sex ability and by their ambitions. You are thirty years old and still doing not have some kind of educations. What were you doing all these years? You do not want to catch an old poison fish.
Let us face the fact, no matter how much education we had on a subject we can go out there and made the worst mistakes of our life that causes us dearly. Only Jesus Christ can help us with our decision-making.
Proverbs 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Begin, continue, and end every work, purpose, and plan with God. Self-sufficiency and self-confidence have been the ruin of mankind ever since the fall. Man's sin has been to live independently of God. True religion consists of full acknowledgement of God in all human affairs (Proverbs 3:5).
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
The Bearer's Of The "Mind Sword"
