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To provide information that can help people. This article is not a complain, nor a griping. It is not intended to tell off anyone, or to hurt the feelings of anyone. I wish you have a good reading. God bless.

HERE WE GO:

Proverbs 22:3-AV A prudent [man] foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.

Amos 3:3-AV Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

M any people has broken down on our highway each day, due to the fact that they did not do preventative maintenance on their vehicles before Leaving home. It is the same thing with a marriage. Having a working marriage, is as easy as drinking a cup of water, the whole thing depend on how the couple start out.

The things that broke up marriage here, are the same things that broke up marriages everywhere. One of the first troubles in marriage is money trouble. Then, the interferences of families and friends, sexual preferences, having no plans on how to deal with grievances and how to end a relationship peacefully.

People base every thing on falling in love. But love cannot buy food, pay rent, buy clothing, pay doctor bills, and support children. People have different background, different likeness, and bad habits and different religious beliefs. You and I can fall in love with any body, but can you live with them? Can they take care of your needs? Will you like their families and friends? Are will they like you?

NEGOCIATE THE RELATIONSHIP:

Now that you are in love, you will need to put the love aside and begin to negociate the relationship before you move in together. It is important to know that love is blind. You will need to know how much of your rights to keep and how much your intended spouse expected you to give up.

JUST TWO THINGS:

All I look for in a relationship of any kind is just two things. I look for the two main important things that I need, if the person can fulfill those needs, I turn a blind eye to all the other person faults. For example. On my job all I look for in my coworkers are. Does he /she turns up to do the shift that they sign up for? Because; if that person do not turn up. I will have to do their part of work for the same money. One night I have to take care of my patients, plus the patient of another health care workers who did not show up. I can live with a Muslim, if he she is willing to live and let live. Even if my coworkers are lazy and sloppy, the main important thing is that they show up. If they willing to show up, I can pick up after them. If I share room with a person, the main important thing is that they pay their part of the bills when it came time for payment to be made. If they are willing to do that, their sloppiness I can over look. What is the main important thing to you? For some people it is sex, for some it is just somebody to talk to. Is this person a conversationalist? And if yes! What do they talk about? My friend #1 talk a lot but only about other people business. That is not my thing. Remember, in a relationship it is Availability, sensibility, sex ability and financially able.

MONEY TROUBLE:

You will need to know how much of the bills you will be expected to pay. To prevent power struggle and tug of war from developing among you. You will need to know who will be the head in this new relationship. Men always assumed that we are the head, but in some cases the women do not think so. We are seeing as the head when the bills are to be paid, are when trouble came. You need to have this two things settle on before you move in together.

YOU WILL NEED TO KNOW WHAT PART FAMILY AND FRIENDS ARE GOING TO PLAY IN THE NEW RELATIONSHIP:

Do not make them eat your mate up

If a man and a woman are in love, and both are living on a Island by themselves, nothing might ever go wrong. Problem always comes in from outsiders. You both have to decide how much of your problems you share with families and friends. If problems develop always go to professional councilors. (Sometime) your immediate ministers of religions is not the right person to go to. If he she have a chat box spouse, your bed story could be in the street by lunchtime.

SEXUAL PREFERENCES:

A Christian sister from one of our churches got married to this man. when they went home, even before she take off her wedding gown. He kicked her to the ground, and begin to rip off the her clothing. She asks him what got into him! he reply" It is sex time now" He raped her, and pierced her with himself every which way he could. You will need to know if it is oral, sodomy, bondage, or strait sex is your spouses PREFERENCES, and to see if that is your things.

Every body were brought up differently ad have different sexual appetites You will need to know before what kind of sex are going to be taking place in this new relationship.

DEALING WITH HEAR SAYS AND GRIEVANCE:

You will need to have a plan how you both are going to deal with hear says and GRIEVANCE. I heard some of my women coworkers were talking. They were talking about the unfaithfulness of husbands. I asked them. If somebody told you that they saw your husbands at a motel, would you ask your husbands about it? They reply" Hell no" I reply " Well! you have no marriage" I once had problem in my marriages that lasted for weeks. The woman that is casing all the trouble, told my wife to throw me out, then that same woman came and told me that she had a room to rent me.

SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY:

You both have to see that each other sexual need are taking care of, that is why you will need to know if you can take care of that person's need. If the man is three time a week person and the woman is one time a week person, she will need to step up one time, while the man step down one time. We call this compromise. She should not tell the man that he is sick and his mind is in the gutter. Sex is a natural part of human biology. You have to get this problem fix, even before you both move in together. You cannot ignored your mate, and say you are not in the mode.

This is a regular problem of Church going people, sex is use for manipulation.

1Corinthians 7:1-AV Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman.

1Corinthians 7:2-AV Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1Corinthians 7:3-AV Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

1Corinthians 7:4-AV The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

1Corinthians 7:5-AV Defraud ye not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 1Corinthians 7:6-AV But I speak this by permission, [and] not of commandment.

1Corinthians 7:7-AV For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

1Corinthians 7:8-AV I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 1Corinthians 7:9-AV But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

ONLY CHRIST JESUS CAN FIX PEOPLE, IF YOU NEED FIXING, YOU WILL NEED TO SEEK HIM:

Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

JESUS IS SEEKING FOR YOU:

Matthew 18:11-AV For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost.

Luke 19:10-AV For the Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost.

CHRIST IS CALLING YOU TO COME:

Isaiah 1:18-AV Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

John 7:37-AV In the last day, that great [day] of the feast, Jesus stood and cried, saying, If any man thirst, let him come unto me, and drink. John 7:38-AV He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.

Revelation 22:17-AV And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.

ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE:

Acts 4:12-AV Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.

John 1:12-AV But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, [even] to them that believe on his name:

WHOSOEVER

1John 3:15-AV Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.

James 2:10-AV For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one [point], he is guilty of all.

Acts 2:21-AV And it shall come to pass, [that] whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved.

Romans 10:13-AV For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

TO SERVE GOD YOU MUST LINE YOURSELF UP WITH HIS KIND OF THINKING:

Isaiah 55:8-AV For my thoughts [are] not your thoughts, neither [are] your ways my ways, saith the LORD. Isaiah 55:9-AV For [as] the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

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