"HOW TO PREVENT YOUR MARRIAGE
FROM ENDING ON THE
ROCK"


Copyright © 2008 by Dr.J.AMcBean Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
T ommy Newberry In his book “Success Is Not An Accident” He says” Success is not an accident! This is, without a doubt, the single most important lesson you must learn and really understand if you want to develop your full potential and enjoy all the success you were designed to enjoy. Success in life comes from one thing: deciding exactly what you want to accomplish and then deliberately choosing to invest the minutes and hours of your life doing only those things that move you in the direction of your goal. It is simple. It is the truth. And the moment you fully accept it, your life and the lives of those you love will never again be the same. Success, however you choose to define it, is absolutely predictable.”
ANTICIPATE THE PROBLEMS THAT PELAGE MARRIAGES AND DEAL WITH IT EVEN BEFORE IT BECAME A PROBLEM IN YOUR LIFE:
Some of the problems that seem to plague marriages are, look a phobia. This is when one spouse is afraid and insecure, that his or her spouse might be looking at somebody else. Many fight and even killing happen over “What you looking at?” We will talk more about this later.
untold thousand of marriages have crashes against the rocks of time, many of which could have been save. Marriages have been brought down by problems that was hidden in the temperament of people. Problems that could have been null, if it was force to come up to the surface, and dealt with them before the marriage. Problem likes "looks phobia" Black American men find it disrespectful if another man looks at his wife while the man was driving by. This causes fight and killing. This problem can be solve before the marriage, by retaining your rights to look where you want to look, and for others to look at you, without him showing any attitudes. This call for a strong premarital agreement. Problem springing from sexual preferences can be taken care off before the marriage. Child molestation, women beating and gambling. These entire so call problem can be taken care off, just by talking about them in a rap session, and putting them in a premarital agreement.
FALLING INTO BAD RELATIONSHIP:
POWER STRUGGLE:
A couple must decide on who is the leader in the relationship, even before moving in together. Somebody will have to be the leader. The president of the United States is there for emergency decisions. Congress can be tied up on decisions for years. In time of war and time of great stress, when an immediate decisions is needed, there is no time for long drawn out, and endless debating. The president has emergency powers; where he can get up and say" This is how it must go" The president has to use his emergency powers, until congress can come up with an agreement. Somebody in the marriage has to have that power. The Bible say it is the man must have this power in the marriage.
Ephes. 5:23 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Many women do not agree with this, but when trouble came, they run behind the man.
James 3:16-AV For where envying and strife [is], there [is] confusion and every evil work.
One of the easiest ways to put an end to the power struggle that seems to kill many Marriages are for the man to choose a much younger woman, that himself. We see in the Bible Abraham was ten years older than his wife. When we were going to school a girl that was our age was much mature that the boys, and would not even listen to us. It was impossible for those girls to be in subjecting to us when we were just idiots to them. So even before the two people move in together they must decide on who is the leader in the relationship. Do not assumed any thing, talk about it, and document it in the premarital agreement.
DEALING WITH DISAGREEMENT:
Amos 3:3-AV Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
The good thing about this verse, is that agreement comes through talking. Talking show up disagreement, and talking straighten out disagreement.
LEAVE PLACE FOR RECONCILIATION:
DEALING WITH HEAR SAYS:
HAVING A GRIEVANCE PLAN:
Some people who have problem in their spirit. They have wounded spirit or wounded lives; these believe every thing they heard without seeking verifications. Therefore their marriage is at the mercy of people whom bearing a grudge or people who are jealous of them.
The proper way to deal with this problem is by asking the person. How do you know it was my husband car? What time of day was it? What motel was it? Did you wrote down the plate number? If he or she do not have any of the answers to the questions that you ask. It could be a mistake, if the person has an answer to the questions that you ask. What pain, effort, and dedication that this person take to bring you that information, like he she is a private detective. Therefore, You can conclude the whole thing to be one big lie.
Proverbs 24:4-AV And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 11:9-AV An hypocrite with [his] mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.
No marriages ever survive a sex problem.
Sex is a natural part of human biology, it is God that sit down upon his holy mountain and make up the stuff. It is not nasty. A person's mind is not in the gutter because they want sex. It is not human beings that bring on the feeling. It is just like sleep, people do not want to fall asleep on the job, but sleep wins.
MARRIED INTO CURSE FAMILY.
CURSE UPON YOUR FINANCIAL LIFE.
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US:
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF BECOMING A CHRISTIAN
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN KEEP HIM
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY
FIRST HUMBLING YOU
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing, you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon sin.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, AND FIND A GOOD CHURCH
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY
Gal 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ, and I live; yet no longer I, but Christ lives in me. And that life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith toward the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself on my behalf. Gal 2:21 I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness is through law, then Christ died without cause.
Galatians 2:20 make 1 Cor 9:27 possible. Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body.
According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.

"Sword Bearer"