How To Avoid Growing Old On The Shelves
By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
A Woman will go out and spent $400 US on her hair style, another $150 on her finger nails and still another $900 on weight lost programs. Women spent a lot of time on their outward appearances. But outward appearances only bring about a first attraction. It causes the men to look in her directions. However, every time a man approaches a woman, one out of two things happen.
APPROACH AND RETREAT THEORY:
One of the primary reason why men retreat from women is because the men do not understand the woman love language. Some people tell you that they love you then stabs, or bite you in the back. Some aggravate the man and that is her way of telling him that he is getting to her. If you cannot tell the person that you find them attractive, and you like them, then at least act like you like them. If you cannot say it verbally, act it. Actions speak louder than words.
If the woman has what it takes to retain a man, the man either get stuck with her or retreat from her. Nothing drive away men from women like when the women are self righteous. I was sitting a table with one of my female in-law, a man from the other side of the table cannot stop looking at her, so I signal to the man that she is a sister in law. I get up and went away, giving the man his chance, One hour later I return to hear the man pop the questions. The woman told the man that she married to Jesus. The man wings fell like robin being broken up in the storms.
I say" Dang it woman you mean you drive away that man" That was her way of telling the man that she was available, but man do not want to take away Jesus wife. You hook a fish now skin it, do not make his slimy but get away, with foolish talking and self righteous attitude. Jesus do not have a wife. The Church is going to be his bride after the rapture of the church, but not now. Stop saying that Jesus is you husband because it is not true.
LEARN HOW TO GIVE GOOD SIGNALS
Giving good signals is the art of getting a man. Dressing up nice and looking all tush, intimidate some men. Because it make the woman look very expensive and unapproachable.
CHILDREN FASHION SIGNALS
When I was growing up and a girl like me, and want me to know about it. The girl would send one of her friend to tell me. Many of them would do it in a way that it look like her friend decide to convey the message without her friend knowledge. The only problem with that, sometime the two friend want the same person, and the one that convey the message take the chance and convey the message in a way that she get the boy.
ADAPT MEN LIKE SIGNALS
When a man interested in a woman, the woman know right away. Because the men do not do it in a way that she will have to decode it. All the men use is eye contact, stare, head turning, and trying to start a conversation.
DO NOT KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE TO A MAN, NOR SEDUCE AND GET ONE
In today world, the sexual harassment law is strong, and men are going to jail for sexual harassment. A woman has to be aggressive, to draw a man out of his shyness.
SEDUCTION IS A NATURAL PART OF BEING A WOMAN
Seduction is also the art of getting someone to love you. It is an act of winning the love of someone. It is not all bad as preachers sign it out to be.
Un-realisticness is one of the greatest disadvantage of women. Only pretending is another killer. Letting themselves rundown, by refusing to eat well. Trying to have a 100 pound body like a movie star is the killer of women in this age. Not every body can have a movie star body. Not every body was born to be skinny. Waiting for the man to make the first move, causes many to grow old alone, and lonely. Rich and show off, is just like rich and remain hungry.
One this same site, look for an article name"Jaman2" Other articles name. How to send signals to a man. One book we are working on name now. Title" What she is saying that she is not telling, this can greatly a woman on pulling out shy men of their shyness. Men change over night, gone is the day days of the cat calling. Especially on the job and in the army.
TALKING DOWN AT MEN AND ABOUT MEN
One of my lady friend has a good profession, she is not bad looking any man could pick her up. But the way she act and talk down about men give me the indication that she has been used up. She say "I do not want any man, I married to Jesus" At the same time she do not believe in what she is saying. Days later she say" A Man almost get some from her two days ago. "Her fish almost get fried, but something turn up and cause a distraction"
NO RESPECT FOR MEN
The way they talk and act, give the impression that no woman is happy with a man. Man just siting down home and waiting to take the woman's check when she came home. I been married for more that twenty years to the same woman and never take her pay check once. Men are getting smart now, they prefer get married to another man than getting involve with a female who is having problem with men.
"ALL MEN WANT IS SEX"
From a woman keep saying this junk, it give the men the indication that this is a female that have serious sex problem. What in heaven's name should a woman want a man that do not love her body! Why a woman want a man who have no use in bed? All he can do is mop up her floor. This is not a man, but a butter licking cat. A real man want woman who can give him competition in bed, he do want somebody who alway making excuses. “ A fish that is scared of bones”
LEAVE THE BAGGAGE
Psalms 109:22-AV For I [am] poor and needy, and my heart is wounded within me.
Proverbs 18:14-AV The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?
Many people try to start relationship while having a wounded heart and wounded spirit. It is not good to start any new relationship until you get over the hurts from the old one. If you still have some emotional cuts you are not ready for a new relationship. Two wrestler cannot have sex after the game.
HAVING NO AMBITIONS
Nothing turns a man off from a woman, like when the woman has no ambitions. Some people do not know that they will need to keep updating their life. Cuteness, pretty clothing, good shape is not all what a man is looking at. Big butt only blow big gas, some pretty face only pretty in the street. You cannot start a new relationship when the hurt from the previous one is still fresh.
Little boats must stay near shore. Little tender toes girls must stay away from big men. When the whole thing over all that is going to left is some saw dust and feather.
THE DELEGATED AUTHORITY OF MEN
Ephesians 5:23-AV For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:24-AV Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
1Peter 3:1-AV Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 1Peter 3:2-AV While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear. 1Peter 3:3-AV Whose adorning let it not be that outward [adorning] of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
1Peter 3:4-AV But [let it be] the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, [even the ornament] of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 1Peter 3:5-AV For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 1Peter 3:6-AV Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
1Peter 3:7-AV Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Proverbs 22:3-AV A prudent [man] foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.
Proverbs 27:12-AV A prudent [man] foreseeth the evil, [and] hideth himself; [but] the simple pass on, [and] are punished.
Proverbs 24:4-AV And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 11:9-AV An hypocrite with [his] mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.
Jeremiah 33:3-AV Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
The Bearer’s Of The “Mind Sword”
