What To Do When Your Mate Refuses Sex
By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
I n every relationship, one of the two is always the one to enunciate sex. We call this one the main aggressor in the relationship. Sometime the aggressiveness, cause the other mate to think that his or her mate is sold out to sex. Therefore, he or she begins to use it as a tool of manipulation. On the other hand, to control the other. Therefore, their refusal is on purpose. Since it is now being use on purpose, as a tool how does one deal with it?
If you suspected that, the person lack of urges could be from physical or emotional causes, try getting them help. However, if the person is behaving like that on purpose because there are animosities. This is clear evidence that the people do not want the relationship anymore. !
HOW TO TURN THE TABLE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.
People will never stop their behaviors if they think it is working in their favor. They will only stop when that behavior bounces back and begin to hurt them in the process.
If you suspected that, your mate is refusing you on purpose, and is using that to control you. Let he or she knows that you are available when he or she is ready. Then stop making advance to them. If a person gives you the indication that they want to be left alone. They do not want to be bothered, do not bother them, and leave them alone. Above all, stop getting into a verbal fight and start planning your leaving, if no changes are seen insight. In most cases the mate finds somebody better, and just taking you along for the ride. Where does he or she get their needs met? Where women are concern they might not have another man, it could be another woman telling her what to do.
A JAMAICAN WOMAN MISTAKE.
She told me that her husband was being bad, and he stops having intercourse with him for three months. I advise her to quit that behavior. She was only ruining her marriage. Two weeks later, she returns to my office. She caught the man in the basement of their home on top of a black America woman. Then she continues to say "If Yu si how him a ga-lang inner her= If you see how he is performing on top of her. In my heart I say, "What did you expect? I told you to behave"
ANOTHER WOMAN MAKES THE SAME MISTAKE.
This was a Christian woman. She told me that she stops sleeping with the husband. I told her to stop that behavior. She did not listen. The man catches on and stops going to her completely. Now six months later she is now complaining that the man stop coming to her completely. "It seems like he finds another woman." The two women marriage has completely broken one end in divorce.
PEOPLE NEED TO GROW UP.
We must find positive ways of dealing with problems within the relationship. Once we set a negative thing into motions, it causes a domino effect and triggers off a lot of negative reaction.
1 Cor. 7:1-5 (NASB-U) Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. [2] But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. [3] The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. [4] The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. [5] Stop depriving one another, accept by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
A Christian wife can hold out an her husband for six months defrauding him with ease. Some can go on even longer. Some Christians's husbands leave the church in the process and some became Muslim where they can have four wives to choose from and still belong to a community.
We made mistakes because we start our lives wrong.
Long before you were born, before you were conceived in your mother's womb, even before your parents meet. God knew you and wrote your name in his book. In that same time, God also sent his son Jesus to die for your sins. If you accept this same Jesus as your savor and continue with him, you will never be defeated. Your life will never be the same. Make the decision for Jesus today, join the million of the saints who answer this calling and went on to victors living. Your birth was not an accident. You are not a freak of nature. You are not bad lucky, it is God that has his hand on you, calling you to come to him
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
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