HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOU ARE WALKING INTO
A BAD RELATIONSHIP
By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
L ong before the stars were created, and before the first ice age. There we were in the mind of God. God's will is for humanity to be happy. In addition, if we can find the courage to look into his words, we will find guidance for our lives. Marriage was and is a part of the divine plan for humanity. God put within our spirit the ability to know when we are getting off course. If my reader watch the discovery channel, you can see that sometime in the wild, when an animal is about to fall prey to a predator, some how the animal begin to show signs of uneasiness. Just as if he knows that, something is creeping upon him.
3 John 1:2 (NASB) Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers.
AN INNER VOICE.
Joining yourselves with other people in a relationship is going to be one of the most important decisions that you and I will ever made. One bad mistake will trigger off a lifetime of trouble. People must learn to listen to their inner voice. Certain mental conditions in people never seem to get better but get worst as they age. That is why it is important to listen to a inner voice that will warn us of hidden dangers
Sometime if we would listen to our inner voice, and use our common sense we could save ourselves a lifetime of unhappiness. A relationship is a responsibility. Is this person mentally able to carry a relationship? Is this person emotionally stable? Does this person have some painful childhood experience that he or she has not gotten over?
GET HEALING FIRST.
One girl was raped by her stepbrother and by her stepfather. She went to live with a minister who also rapes her. Finally, she got married to a friend of mine. Even though she know that the man love her, she drive him up the wall. Finally, it never ends well.
FLASHBACK.
Psychology. A recurring, intensely vivid mental image of a past traumatic experience: Another study shows that women who served in Vietnam still struggle with depression, anxiety, and painful flashbacks from the war (New York Times).
In the job market, our employers put us through a rigorous physical and physiological testing before employing us. Only in a relationship, people joined themselves to people base on feelings and looks. People with physic logical problems are in most case a danger to themselves and to others. These people sometime hurt themselves so a mate can be blamed for it. It do not take much to turn such people on the wrong side.
If the person has not gotten healing for the abuses they obtained as a child the person is not ready for any form of marital relationship. The laugh will be on you. Our love is not enough to change people. You do not want somebody with emotional problem and baggage from childhood ruff sex. No bodies want damage goods. These always have flash back. A spouse does not have to be behaving bad to trigger of his or her mate flash back. It can comes on by a mind poisoned, by a very spiteful friend who is trying to upset the peace of the family, by saying negative things which always trigger off the mate flash backs. If a person truly wants such person for a mate, it is your responsibility to see that he or she get healing before you even start talk shacking up are marriage relationship with such a person. Let he or she Go get healing first.
THE MAN'S RESPONSIBILITY.
Tit 2:6 the younger men likewise exhort to be soberminded: Tit 2:7 in all things shewing thyself an ensample of good works; in thy doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, Tit 2:8 sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of us.
HUSBAND AND WIFE RESPONSIBILITY TO EACH OTHER.
1Co 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 1Co 7:2 But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 1Co 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1Co 7:4 The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife. 1Co 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be by consent for a season, that ye may give yourselves unto prayer, and may be together again, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
The Bearers Of The Mind Sword
