By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
A ttitude And Tone of Voice Equal broken relationship and Broken heart. The Song Writer says“Sometime we make life harder than it is, we take a perfect night and filed it up with words we don’t mean, then we wonder why we felling this way” Somebody says that no communication is what cause marriage to fall apart. But, this person is wrong. Something happens that plunges the relationship into silence. It is call, “Attitude and tone of voice” You do not want to set an attitude in motion between your family members and among your co-workers. Because, every attitude trigger off another attitude among your associates.
Attitude set In Motion.
One man says he asks his wife to type a letter for him, and she did it but with an attitude. So, he went and learned how to type. He asked her to cook she did it, but with an attitude, next time he cook for himself. He asked her for sex, she did it but with an attitude, so he stop bothering her all together. Now if she wants to do any such thing she must initiate it.
Poor Communicational Skills.
Pro 29:11 A fool speaks all his mind; but a wise one keeps it in until afterwards. Pro 29:12 If a ruler listens to lies, all his servants are wicked.
Tone of voice can stop people from hearing what you and I have to say. When somebodies reply to me with a tone of voice, the tone is what I heard, and the good message is lost. Conflict communicational skills are important in a relationship.It is not easy to set a relationship in motion and watch it drains away due to attitude, tone of voice, and poor communicational skills.
Exact And Tit For Tat.
Luk 6:38 Give, and it shall be given to you, good measure pressed down and shaken together and running over, they shall give into your bosom. For with the same measure that you measure, it shall be measured to you again.
Luk 3:13 And he said unto them, Exact no more than that which is appointed you.
Another killer to relationship is to be exact. An exact attitudes always trigger off a tit for tatting attitude. In one Nursing home I worked years ago. One worker left the show room in a mess. The other healths care workers been talking about it. I asked the lady in charge If I could go and clean it up, since I am sick of hearing about it. She says, “No, leave it for the person who left it like that” But, we do not know when the person is coming back to work. So I hide and clean it up. It only takes about four minutes. If there are floaters in the toilet they have to come and ask who lost use the toilet. It is embarrassing already, just flushes the toilet and goes out. All of those women married and not one is living with a husband.
Hear Says.
Luk 6:37 Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you shall be forgiven.
I heard a couple of Nurses talking about how bad men are. I asked one of the nurse a question. “If somebody told you something about your husband, would you ask him about it when you went home?” She says. “Hell No” The man is going to sense that there is something wrong about her spirit, and assumed that she is seeing another man, then he went of and finds himself another woman on the side. It is not good judgment to listen to a gossip about your mate, if you are not intended to ask their verification. You are going to throw away a life partner over lies from other women who envied your happiness.
“It Is Not My Job”
It is not necessarily a man’s job to invite out a woman. Any one of them can do it. It is not only a man’s job to give the woman a valentine’s day card. She can do it to. It is not only a man’s job to call the woman the day after the sex. She can call him too. Winners are people that has learned to cross the lines of traditions. Prostitute used men, take their money and dump them off because Prostitute has learned to cross the lines. I am not saying women are to be prostitutes. I Am only saying these do not follow the path of regular women. Attitudes, tones of voice, exact, hear says, and poor communication skills, are the cause of many a dead relationship.
Bed Spiting.
“Bed Spiting” Is what the bible call, “Defrauding” This is when the couple spite each other out of having sex. This attitude cause one or both to get an independent attitude. “You can do without me I can do without you also” This cause one or both to start an affair, from here on word, pregnancy, disease and sometime death is the result of this attitude.
1Co 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1Co 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1Co 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 1Co 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
The Bearer’s Of The “Mind Sword”
